It’s OK if sister isn’t in charge of shower
By Jon Busdeker on Jun. 14, 2007
Dear Emily: My older sister “Violet” is such a drama queen and always wants the attention of our parents. Well, I just got engaged and Violet said she wants to throw me a bridal shower. While I love her dearly, I know if she takes on something like this, she’ll find a way to make it all about her. How mean would it be if I told her I didn’t want her to do it?
— Never the Center of Attention
Dear Never the Center of Attention: There are only a handful of times in life that you can make something all about you. A bridal shower is one of them.
Do what makes you the happiest, but just try to spare Violet’s feelings in the process. Tell her someone (like a friend or another relative) already volunteered to throw you a shower. Or, be untraditional and throw one for yourself!
You can also explain that as your sister, you would rather she took on another important wedding task, like helping you find your dream dress, or help in another part of the planning.
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