Give family time a fair shake
By Jon Busdeker on May. 31, 2007
Dear Emily: I have been dating “Tim” for six months. He is really close with his family. Every Sunday he gets together with his mom and siblings to watch NASCAR, football or whatever else is on. I was flattered when he asked me to go with him a couple of times, but now I dread the experience. It seems like at every get-together the guys go off and watch sports while the girls sit around and play board games. I am bored out of my mind every time I go, but I think I’ll hurt Tim’s feelings if I tell him the truth.
— Bored With Board Games
Dear Bored With Board Games: Have you considered not playing the board games and just watching sports with the guys?
Who knows, maybe Tim will find it refreshing that you want to hang with him instead of the other women.
If this is taboo in Tim’s household, you could just tell your boyfriend the truth and ask if you could skip out on some of the family gatherings. After all, it’s not that you are telling him you don’t like his family, you just don’t like the games. That is something he should understand.
But before you do anything, make sure you give the games a fair chance. If you’ve been at least three or four times and still can’t stand it, go ahead and make a change.
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