Give boyfriend space after proposal
By Jon Busdeker on Jul. 05, 2007
Dear Emily: My boyfriend of three years proposed to me last weekend at my apartment, and while I thought I was happy with our relationship, faced with such a major decision put some serious doubts in my mind. I told “Brian” I needed to think about it, and he was so hurt and embarrassed, I think, that he just got up and left. Now he won’t answer my calls and, to be honest, if he did agree to speak with me, I wouldn’t know what to say.
— Messy Marriage Proposal
Dear Messy Marriage Proposal: Give your boyfriend space to think things through, and give yourself some time as well. He knows you want to talk to him, so he’ll call when he is ready.
So you need to be ready when he calls! Dig deep and face your fears about marriage and this relationship. If you don’t think Brian is “the one,” you’ve got to be upfront about it.
But if it is just commitment you fear, you need to start asking yourself why and start working on fixing the problem. Talk out your concerns with friends and family who know you best and can help you get to the bottom of your problem and help find a solution.
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